Wordless Wednesday


Happy Birthday Ninong Roland (Godfather)


Happy Birthday Ninong (Godfather) Roland!! He’s finally 27! We’re thankful that we got invited to his dinner and of course we had to bring the little munchkin with us. We went to a buffet and boy did Ryu eat a whole bunch! I’m so proud of him because he actually enjoyed all the different types of food that I was feeding him. He thoroughly enjoyed some sauteed mushrooms which happens to be mommy’s favorite as well!

That evening Ryu and I came from a previous engagement with his other Godparent. Ryu just had a blast roaming around with other children so going to dinner with our friends was a change in the environment for him. He loves all our friends and therefore, he ran around like crazy with tons of smiles and kisses. I’m very glad Ryu isn’t the type of child that doesn’t easily get scared off by people. I mean at the same time that can be a bad thing, so we’ll just have to teach him about strangers, lol.

Here are a couple pictures taken by his Ninong Jay (http://jayjayn.com).

Outfit:

Long sleeved undershirt from Target

Roll up plaid button down from H&M

Cargo Pants from Baby G.A.P

Beige snow boots from Baby G.A.P

I noticed that my baby isn’t quite a baby anymore. He’s more of a growing little boy, and eventually he’ll be a man. I can’t believe how fast time is flying by. He’s all about them big boy clothes and shoes! To top off the fact that he’s just sporting a really short boy cut. Ahh, he’s growing up way too fast!

Musically Inclined


Ryu’s at the age where he’s growing into his own person. I know he’s starting to pick and choose what he likes whether it’d be food, clothes, shoes, etc. I also am aware that as kids grow they’re brains are pretty much like sponges. They pick up on anything quite easily and they learn to register on a daily basis. Ryu’s at the age where between his father and I we both share a different taste and delight for music. I absolutely adore classical music, oldies, and some R&B (just to name a few genres). His father on the other hand loves hip hop and rap. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with the music that he listens to, but for Ryu’s age I don’t think that it’s quite appropriate for him to listen to that kind of music. Obviously I’m already having a problem of trying to contain my “pirates” mouth around Ryu, adding on pretty violent music isn’t really the way to go. I’m not necessarily saying that hip hop and rap aren’t music, but for me I’d rather Ryu be exposed to something that can be quite stimulating and relaxing.

I want Ryu to be that child. I want him to be musically inclined and open minded to playing different type of instruments. I want him to see the beauty of music and how powerful it can really be. I’ve never been the type of person where my family forced me to play an instrument. If anything I’ve always been interested to try and when I did I guess you can say I failed miserably. Now I sort of regret not focusing myself with the violin or the piano. I want Ryu to have the option of being interested in whatever he wants. May that be the type of music his father listens to or what I listen to I just want him to fully understand and enjoy music the way we do.

What kind of music do you find appropriate for your child?

Flashback Friday; Ryu says “Green”


I’m glad that even if these clips are old that his Ninong (Godfather) is still making the effort to post it up. It gives me some type of compilation of what I’m missing out. My little man is growing so fast and sometimes I just can’t even believe he’s my baby. I still get sort of shocked from time to time thinking, “WOW! I’m a mother! I have this innocent life to take care of. I have this little person that I absolutely adore with all my heart”. Seriously, becoming a “new” parent is hard. The transition of taking care of a newborn being introduced to your life is life changing. Not knowing what’s next can become difficult, but it’s all a learning process. Sometimes we make mistakes, but that’s the beauty if it.

The pictures are all taken by his Ninong as well. These are some pictures taken before Ryu got his haircut.

What are you doing Ninong?


Here’s a video of Ryu. It’s not quite new, but it’s also not that old. His Godfather finally to put a video up of him and I’m glad cause it was unexpected of him to do it. Ryu is too cute trying to talk to his other Ninong (Godfather) Jay.

I’ll be posting once again I just need to find my battery for my camera. I’m not quite sure where Ryu misplaced it, but it’s somewhere at home. I really miss taking pictures of my babe considering that I’ve been out of the loop for a while now. I’ll probably be taking more of my time to go on ahead and update Ryu’s page since it’s the least I can do for his family members to see and look at.

Hiatus..


I feel bad that I’ve been away from blogging on here for Ryu’s sake and for my sake trying to organize everything on here. Aside from Ryu misplacing the battery to my camera being the reason why I haven’t posted there’s been a lot of problems at home. I’m not quite sure if this would be the perfect place to share all of this considering this blog is mainly about Ryu. However, I think that because this does involve Ryu I thought that it might be sort of soothing to share with you all what’s been going on.

I’m not sure how many of you are single parents out there, but it sure is hard to be new to the idea of being one. Ryu’s father and I have been separated for a good 6-7 mo. now and well we’re trying to make the best out of it. The hardest part of this all is we still do live together for financial reasons. At this moment we’ve decided (or at least he did) that he’s going to venture off within the next 3 months and to pretty much get myself ready to do things on my own. We’re trying to figure out how we’re going to divide the time for Ryu because this just seems far worst than a normal breakup or divorce. Having any type of separation with children involved makes the situation much more difficult. I think in the beginning of it all I was being unreasonable to give Romeo and type of custody to see his son due to my pain and selfishness. To make a long story short, I gave in and he and I are trying to be civil and it takes baby steps to be friends. I think we’re slowly getting there, but of course it took a lot from my part to calm down and look at it from a realistic point of view. I can’t be selfish at least not when it comes to my son. As much as I want to take him away from his father I have absolutely no reason to. Romeo’s a great dad and he will continue to remain and be in Ryu’s life and in my life. Therefore, being friends would be the easiest way to do so.

At this point I’ve got to figure out what typical single parents do:

  • Job?
  • Housing?
  • Transportation?
  • Childcare?
  • Expenses?

I have to think about all of that in a span of 3 months. I need to buckle down and start somewhere. Things might not be perfect, but the holidays are coming up. I need to make the best out of this difficult situation for my son. It’s not his fault his parents aren’t meant to be together and can’t seem to find a solid ground together. However, what his parents can provide is two happy homes that’s going to love him twice as much!

If you all relate or need some advice I’d love to talk. I’d love to know what other single mommies out there are doing. How they got through tough times alone?